March 27th, 2009, by Shelley Riutta
“Of all the earthly music, that which reaches the farthest into the heavens is the beauty of a truly loving heart.” Henry Ward Beecher
Cindy came into to see me because she was being so critical with her husband Bob, who she loved very much. She said “Some of the things that he does just irritate me and I can’t stop being critical of him.” I suggested “Why don’t you practice loving the things that irritate you about him—because they are a part of him and you love him. You will be practicing being unconditionally loving—which will be healing for you as well as him. ” This was a new idea for her and she was skeptical that she could do it she said “You mean I can make this decision to love these things and have them not irritate me?” I said “Yes, just give it a try and see how it feels.”
Cindy returned two weeks later and was amazed by the transformation in her, in Bob and in their relationship. She said “Every time I started to feel the irritation I said to myself—I am going to love this about him—and I surprised myself because I really started to love the quirky things about Bob—and now I love him even more.” Cindy went on “It felt so good to be loving and not so critical—I felt closer to Bob and our kids—-and what surprised me the most is that I felt so much better about myself. I felt that I was being more of who I truly am—which is loving—not critical.” I said “That is right Cindy –you were being in alignment with your Authentic Self—which is unconditionally loving and accepting.”
She then said “And what really amazed me is the whole atmosphere in our house changed. It felt more safe, warm and accepting—even the kids started being kinder to each other. It is like everyone relaxed and felt more open and loving.” I said “Yes, this shift from being critical to being loving can have a profound impact on the kind of atmosphere that you create in your relationships.” She said “It was like my change created a ripple effect that affected everyone in the home.” I said “Yes, it is very often that way that it only can take one person who has made a clear commitment to loving to help the others in the home shift into this as well.”
The above example can be applied to any of your relationships. Once you get this simple but powerful truth that who you are—your very being is love—and when you begin to operate from who you are—your relationships are transformed, healed—and you become a living example of unconditional love and acceptance—a beautiful reflection of divine love.
March 13th, 2009, by Shelley Riutta
I had a 3 day Inner Bonding, Breathwork and Joy Workshop in Florida that was on Feb. 26th, 27th and 28th. Here are a few photos from the event.
My friends Michael Finney and Tim Kremer assisted me at the Workshop. One of the wonderful contributions they both made was playing music for the Guided Imagery that I did every morning to start the day. Michael is on the Harmonica and Tim on the guitar. Deb Klugger pictured here also assisted at the Workshop as well.
“Absolutely Amazing! The flood gates came flying open. Almost an indescribable experience.” Margie, Wisconsin, attended the Inner Bonding, Breathwork and Joy Breakthrough Workshop.
This is a photo of the group and I am working with someone in the center of the circle. One of my assistants- Brenda Spaude- is a photographer took this photo and then was able to make it look like a painting! To see more of her work go to www.44beyond.com.
“This was one of the “best” Workshops I’ve ever experienced–the Breathwork was profound. Shelley orchestrated profound shifts for all that attended.” Deb, Ocala, Florida
Here is my friend, Tim Kremer, who assisted at the Workshop. He conducts his own presentations and Workshops on helping golfers to shift their mindsets, their golf games and their lives. He was a wonderful and fun addition to the “team” at the Workshop. For more information about his work www.myspiritofgolf.com
“It was amazing. I loved every moment and will treasure it forever. It was really eye opening for me–I learned a lot and found my inner child. Thank you Shelley for allowing me to be a part of your amazing group! Lisa, North Carolina
Here is the group of fabulous people that attended the Workshop.
“This Workshop was amazing. I felt a complete range of emotions as well as love and connection to a group of people I hadn’t met before.” Participant of the Workshop
“It was truly wonderful are the words that come to mind—in every aspect. ” Participant of the Workshop
After the Workshop a few of us went to the Tradewinds Resort in St. Petes Beach. Here is the view from our balcony—isn’t it beautiful—I love the beach!
March 12th, 2009, by Shelley Riutta
Do you want to open up to meet your Soulmate? Just this past Tuesday I interviewed Kathryrn Alice—one of the leading experts in the field of Soulmate Manifestation. Kathryn is the author of the best-selling book “Love Will Find You: 9 Magnets to Bring You and Your Soulmate Together.”
Her transformational work has helped thousands of people shed outdated beliefs about relationships and uplift themselves to a higer level where they attracted their Soulmates.
In this interview she shared some of her principles for Attracting Soulmate Love:
*Learn that NOTHING will keep love from you
*Even if you never leave the house, your Soulmate will find you
*There is no such thing as rejection, only the wrong fit
*The concept of looking beyond appearances
*How to uplevel your current relationship so a Soulmate Relationship
Kathryn also did a powerful guided imagery to help you connect with your Soulmate on the spiritual level.
“The call tonight with Kathryn Alice was excellent. Thank you and Kathryn both. The call was informative and the Soul Call brought tears to my eyes. Well Done!” Presentation Participant
We did record the presentation and you can purchase a copy–for details click on this link http://www.radiantlifecounseling.com/products.htm
March 10th, 2009, by Shelley Riutta
“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” Howard Thurman
Do you feel stuck in your life? Do you feel there is something more for you in your life but you don’t know what that is? Or you know what it is but you don’t know how you are going to get there? The “feeling stuck “ feeling is an important feeling to pay attention to. It is a signal that something needs to change in your life—but the change first needs to begin on the inner level. You see we are all meant to live magnificent lives filled with joy and purpose—we are actually hard wired for this. The stuck feeling is giving you a signal that you are out of alignment with your true self—your Authentic self.
Your Authentic self is the truest you—the you that you intended to be when you came here. Your Authentic self is already filled with Joy and knows it’s purpose on the planet—this is already within you—it is not contained outside of you—where many people get sidetracked looking.
So many of the clients I work with feel a sense incredible untapped potential within them that is just not being expressed. They feel the frustration of this knowingness– coupled with confusion they feel about how to tap into this energy and express it more meaningfully in their lives. The most powerful thing that I share with them that begins to transform their lives immediately is beginning to distinguish the voice of their conditioned self (all the fears, false beliefs and patterns they have been taught) from the voice of their Authentic Self.
Many listen to the voice of their Conditioned Self and allow this voice to dictate their decisions in life. Listening to this voice will lead to confusion, lack of confidence, unwillingness to take risks, despair, anxiety and even anger. This voice will keep you stuck in old patterns and situations that aren’t good for you for YEARS. The Joy that is inside of you will not be able to be felt or expressed with this Voice running the show.
To start to get you to distinguish this voice from your Authentic Voice—here are some examples:
1. Conditioned Self Voice-“You better stay right where you are right now, it’s safe, secure and the money is good—don’t rock the boat. The economy is bad and you should be lucky you even have a job.”
Authentic Self Voice-“I’m so excited to find my life purpose! I know there is something special I am meant to do—I can just feel it and I can’t wait to figure it out. I am going to sign up for the Life Purpose Mentoring Program so I can start moving forward as soon as possible. I am so excited—what an adventure this will be!”
2. Conditioned Self Voice-“I probably don’t have a Life Purpose—life is just meant to be how it is now—not awful—but not really great either. I think I want too much in my life.”
Authentic Self Voice- “I know life can be better—I can feel it inside of me. I have made positive changes in my life and I can do it again. I am willing to take the risks to be all that I came here to be and I know I will be supported as I step out in faith”
3. Conditioned Self Voice-“I could never make money at my Life Purpose –that is just a pie in the sky dream there are only a few lucky people who get to do this. I better just stay realistic and resign myself to what I am doing now—it’s not so bad
Authentic Self Voice-“I know I can make money at my Life Purpose. I might need to learn some new things and grow in different ways—but I am willing to do it because I LOVE what I am doing. And remember the phrase “Do What You Love and the Money will Follow” I will remember this as I move forward. I am so excited—it is going to be even better than I imagine!
4. Conditioned Self Voice-“I don’t think we are supposed to be happy. I see everyone around me and they are just as unhappy as me—that is just life.
Authentic Self Voice-“Happiness is meant for me and everyone else and I am going to open up fully to my happiness and live fully now. No more waiting on the sidelines—I am going to make choices that support what brings me happiness–NOW. I will be a role model for others to move into their happiness too—won’t that be fun!
5. Conditioned Self Voice- “I can’t do that because……….I”m too old, too young, don’t have the money, don’t have the time, I will fail, I will succeed, I don’t deserve it, it’s too late, I don’t know what will happen, I will regret it, I’m scared, I will do it later…….
Authentic Self Voice-“I CAN do it because………I have what it takes, I deserve to be happy, I say so, it is my time to really live, now is the time, I’m not going to hold back anymore, It will be a success no matter what happens, I will be supported by the Universe every step of the way.
See how different you feel reading each of these statements? Feel the heaviness and constriction of the Conditioned Self and on the other hand the lightness, joy and expansiveness of the Authentic Self.
Use these examples to track the voices inside of you—practice labeling the voice of the Conditioned Self and begin to NOT listen to it. Instead– Listen to that soft, subtle, joyful, hopeful, light voice of the Authentic Self inside of you—it will lead you on a path of more Joy, Love, Peace, Lightness and sweet Adventure—the kind of life you were meant to live!
