I Am Fabulous

July 28th, 2011, by Shelley Riutta

“I am Fabulous”: Embracing and Celebrating You!

“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire Universe, deserve your love and affection.” Buddha

“And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.” Marianne Williamson

You are Fabulous! Yes YOU are. How do you feel when you hear that? Do you respond, yes that is right, I am Fabulous. Or do you have a reaction that blocks you from taking this statement in fully. If you are like most people you may not be able to take this in whole heartedly for various reasons. One, it may interrupt your inner litany of you telling yourself all the ways that you are less than fabulous—all the ways that you are messing up in some way, falling short of yours or other people’s expectations. You may have trouble taking in “I am fabulous” because you fear if you do that other people will think your arrogant and self-centered.

We live in a culture that does not support healthy self-confidence and self-celebration. We tend to give people support and sympathy when they are beating themselves up and feeling down and out. We don’t have as much practice supporting people in healthy self-love. What would you do if the next time you saw a close friend they said “I’m feeling so wonderful about myself—I love my life—everything is going great for me!” Would you know how to react to them? Could you celebrate with them? The level to which you could support them in their self-celebration would be to the level that you are doing this on the inner level with yourself.

An example of this is the other day my best friend, who is writing a book, left a message on my answering machine stating “I have had such a great day working on my book, the book is really phenomenal!” This was a perfect example of self-honoring and celebration—she was really acknowledging her talent as a writer and the beautiful expression of her soul reflected in the book. Because she and I both do a lot of work on the inner level to see our own beauty and worth we can support this fully in each other. So my reaction to her message was excitement and celebrating in her success. If I wasn’t clear about my own inner worth and wonderfulness, I may have reacted with judgment of her “Who does she think she is” or self-judgment “I’m not talented and she is—she is better than me.” My reaction has more to do with my own level of self-love than it has to do with what she said on the message.

Why Self-Love is Important

  1. Seeing your own beauty and light allows you to see others more clearly. The fear that people have when they first start working on self-love is that they confuse it with being self-centered and arrogant. The reality is that opening up to deeper levels of self-love and appreciation allows you to see the beauty and magnificence of others more clearly. We all have within us an essence, a radiant Spirit that is filled with love, joy, creativity, compassion and beauty. When you really get that and are able to see this within you—you are able to see it within everybody. You can see beneath people’s protections of fear, negativity and anger and see the truth of who they are—the light of who they are. This is a beautiful gift you give yourself and others and it can transform your whole life and all of your relationships.
  2. Seeing your own Magnificence allows Good things into your Life– If you love and value yourself you will want good things for yourself and you will take action to bring these good things into your life. An example is if you are in a job that you don’t love—if you cared about yourself and your happiness you would take action to find a job or career that you really love. You wouldn’t allow yourself to be in an unloving situation in any area of your life. You would want happy, loving relationships for yourself, a job you were passionate about, a home that you loved and felt nurtured in, plenty of money to do all the things you want to do. All the things that you would want for a person you deeply loved, you would want these things for yourself too.
  3. Seeing your own Fabulousness allows others to see that in you too-People tend to see us and treat us how we see and treat ourselves. There is two ways that this happens. One way is that if you really value yourself and treat yourself kindly other people will pick up on this energy and treat you well too. An example of this: Do you know people you would never say anything disrespectful to because they emanate a sense of self-confidence and self-respect—it is so clear you can feel it. The other way is if you value and are kind to yourself and someone is unloving to you—you would let them know that it is unacceptable to treat you that way. If they don’t respond and continue to be unloving – if you really love yourself you would choose not to be around this person again. It is as simple as that. Either way your inner self-love is setting the standard for how people will treat you.If you see the exquisite beauty and specialness of who you really are—people will automatically see that in you. You, in the state of celebrating you, opens the doorway for others to see you more clearly. There is so much beauty and radiance inside of each and every one of us—if we open our eyes to see it more clearly in ourselves and others, we would be astounded!
  4. When you see your own Brilliance you become a role model for people to see their own Brilliance. So few people are able to see their own beauty that when you are able to love yourself, you are able to light the way for others to do this for themselves too. You are able to role model what this looks like. This is so important if you are a parent—if your children see you taking loving care of yourself and feeling healthy self-love, they will be able to do that for themselves too.Just like you can feel if someone is insecure, you can also feel if someone loves and appreciates themselves. We tend to feel comfortable and relaxed around people who feel good about themselves—and this feeling even rubs off us on us—we start to feel good about ourselves in their presence. Our own self-love has a positive ripple effect on others—by providing a role model for healthy self-love and also energetically opening a space for people to love themselves just by being in our presence.

Ways to Love Yourself More

  1. Take responsibility for seeing your own worth and lovability– Do you realize that your worth and lovability is intact and unchanging? Nothing you can do can ever take away from it—it is your intrinsic worth and can never be diminished. There is nothing to be improved upon and enhanced—you already are brilliant and magnificent just as you are. The real you, your authentic self, is here to just express itself fully and completely. It is beautiful and breathtaking as is. There is nothing to learn, no further schooling, no special skill or special success needed for you to prove your intrinsic worth.In the psychospiritual process Inner Bonding, there is a distinction made between your essence, who you really are– and your protective parts, your wounded adult child. When you are in worry, judgment, fear, anxiety, depression, trying to control—these are all protective parts of you. If you are operating out of your protective self most of the time, you won’t feel the beauty of your essence and neither will those around you. What can happen is that if you operate out of these parts of you long enough you start to believe that this is really you—but it is not.It is like clouds covering up the light and brilliance of the sun. The sun is always there shining. The transient clouds can block your experience of seeing and experiencing the sun—but it doesn’t change the fact that the sun is always shining. It is important to start to remember that you are the brilliant Sun, not the grey clouds that feel so real. You, your essence is always shining and all you need to do is really get that this is a fact, it is unchanging and no one and no event can ever diminish this. Once you know that you really are your essence, this beautiful light—self-love is a natural consequence and you can relax and let this light shine!
  2. Eliminate Self-Judgment and replace with Self-Supportiveness and Self-Appreciation– Your level of self-love will be dependent on the kind of internal dialogue you are having with yourself. We are all having inner conversations with ourselves throughout the day—these conversations are either loving and supportive or critical and unloving. If your self-esteem is low—chances are that your internal dialogue is critical and harsh—pointing out what you’re doing wrong, how you aren’t good enough in some way etc. One way to change this is to replace this negative dialogue with a loving supportive dialogue. The following are ways to shift to a more positive inner dialogue:
    • Think of statements that you want to hear throughout the day and write these on a 3X5 index card. They could be statements like “I love you just the way you are” “Just be you, you are wonderful” “I love you no matter what” “It’s OK to make mistakes, I will still love you” “Let go of what others think of you-I think you are amazing” Use these statements with yourself during the day.
    • Mirror back loving statements to yourself about who you are and how you handle things throughout the day. Examples of these statements are “I love the way you handled that situation” “You are so loving and kind” You are so creative!” “You are such a good listener” “You are brilliant” “You are sweet”. Mirroring back the positive will help you reverse the pattern of being critical with yourself for every little thing you do.
    • Talk back to the Critical Voice and bring in the Truth– If you catch yourself yourself being critical respond back with a loving voice. If you say to yourself “I’m so stupid, I can’t believe I just said that” you can respond back by saying “It’s OK, your not stupid, what you said was just fine, just relax and be yourself, let go what that person thinks of you, I love you no matter what.” Feel how supportive the loving statement is and how it eases the anxiety of the critical voice.
    • Before you go into various situations, think of what kind of positive dialogue you want to have with yourself during the situation. You can even practice this dialogue beforehand. Once you get into the situation you will be prepared with a loving, supportive dialogue. In this way the negative chatter that might get triggered for you doesn’t get a chance to even start because you have consciously chose a loving, positive inner dialogue. You are crowding out the air waves with the positive. Try this and see your self-worth soar and your comfort level with all kinds of situations increase.
    • Write 5 Appreciations about yourself each night in your journal. This can be ways you handled certain situations, how loving you were with others, your creativity, the special unique qualities that are YOU!
  3. Start a “Celebration of Me” Journal– Get a beautiful journal that you can collect sweet notes and cards you receive from others. When the people around you have their hearts open and are sharing love with you—they are seeing the beauty of your essence. These loving cards and notes are reminders of who you really are and it can be helpful to have these in a lovely journal. You can even jot down loving comments people make to you and you can add these to your journal. You can also write loving notes and poems to your inner child, the part of you that reflects beautiful aspects of your essence. You can also put pictures or images that reflect the beauty of your essence in your journal.
  4. Develop Self-Trust– Keep your promises to yourself like you would to anyone else in your life. If you promise yourself you are going to take some time off do something fun or complete a project that you have been putting off—then make sure you follow through and do it. When you let yourself down by not following through on a promise, you are eroding self-trust and self-love. When you keep your promises with yourself, you will feel more secure and strong within yourself—your essence will feel loved and valued.
  5. Take Loving Actions on your own behalf– If you tell yourself you love and care about you but you treat yourself poorly—your self-esteem will stay low. You must take actions that reflect a deep love for yourself. If you were to show love to yourself, you would exercise if you needed to lose weight, you would get to sleep early if you needed more rest, if your life was chaotic you would create balance, if you needed more social connection you would plan some fun things with friends, if you needed to leave an unhealthy relationship, you would leave it. Taking these loving actions will lift your self-esteem and you will feel great about yourself. Try it. For one week put into action all of the things that you know would be loving for yourself. A lot of times this alone can create a major shift in increasing your self-love significantly.

You are Fabulous—it is a given—and it is up to you to see it for yourself. By doing this you will radically improve the quality of your life, your relationships and even pave the way for others to see their own Magnificence too!

Copyright 2007

Sing Your Way to your Dreams!

March 10th, 2011, by Shelley Riutta

The key to shifting our lives is changing our conditioned thoughts and patterns with how we view ourselves and how we view what is possible. When we are in our conditioned self we will view ourselves through the lens of judgment and we will perceive what is possible for us as very limited.  Thoughts like “I could never reach my dreams” “I’m not capable of doing that” “That will NEVER happen for me” or “I don’t have what is takes to really do what I want to do”.

A great way to quickly shift yourself out of this negativity is to put positive statement and phrases into a song–or a catchy phrase you sing. You can sing “I am amazing and I am creating the life of my dreams” or one that I got from inspirational singer Karen Drucker from her Songs of the Spirit II CD is “Money is coming to me easily and effortlessly money is coming to me!”  It doesn’t have to rhyme—you don’t have to be a fabulous singer (although I believe everyone is a fabulous singer!)  Have fun with it and make up your own inspirational songs.  A great place to do this is in the car—you can really belt it out then!!  Have fun with it—create your own songs and sing them LOUD.  The more you occupy yourself with your positive songs–the more you will crowd the airways so the negativity can’t take hold and keep you down.  It will also lift your vibration very high and it will be impossible for you to feel down!

Have fun and Sing Your Songs about what you want and the more you sing them—the more you will begin to believe them–and before you know it you will have Sung yourself into your Wildest Dreams!

I would love to hear what your songs are!

9 Self-Esteem Exercises – #3- When You Really Get How Wonderful You Are, Your Life Improves

August 28th, 2012, by Shelley Riutta

I think the issue of low self-esteem is HUGE for people. Everyone I work with needs to do a lot of work around this issue.  The good news is that when you really get how wonderful you truly are—your whole life improves— because self-esteem affects everything–it affects how much good you allow into your life.  The phrase “How good do you allow your life to get?” is more of a function of a belief that you really deserve a wonderful life.  The good that is wanting to come into your life can only flow to the extent you allow it to flow in.   The better you feel about yourself–the more good you will allow into you life.

The interesting thing with Self-Esteem is that the wounded part of us—the part of us that absorbed negative messages and conditioning as a child is very devoted to the status quo.  This means that we have gotten used to the negative messages and the low self-esteem–this can feel familiar to us.  Moving into the truth—which is that we are an amazing, magnificent person with tremendous worth and potential—stretches us out of our comfort zone.  Without even being aware of it–we can keep ourselves locked into low self-esteem by the choices we make that are in alignment with this low-self-esteem.  An example of this I see over and over is when people go to make the decision to attend a Workshop.  They have the initial excitement and they want to attend—then the old conditioning can take over and come up with a million and one reasons why they shouldn’t attend.  It is the fear of the conditioned self—of moving out of what is familiar into the territory that is new—it is the unknown.  This conditioned self is very compelling and many people listen to it—and they continue to stay stuck—not even knowing it was there own choice that is keeping them there.

One of my “I am Fabulous ” Workshops, there was a woman who said she wanted to attend—a day later she called and said she had a real busy week and would be too tired to attend.  I saw that this was her conditioned self and encouraged her to attend anyway—stating that the Workshop would be energizing for her.  She attended and had a huge breakthrough that completely changed her life—she has been the happiest and most peaceful she had ever been since the Workshop.  She was so close to not coming.  She would have missed out on the very thing she needed to grow to the next level.

So watch yourself when you make decisions–make sure that you are making decisions that are what you really want—that are moving you forward—rather that decisions from your conditioned self that are going to keep you stuck in old patterns.

Make decisions that are in alignment with your true priorities.  Back what you want with positive action.

 

Presentations to Organizations & Groups

June 22nd, 2009, by Shelley Riutta

Presentations to Organizations and Groups

presenting1Shelley is available for transformational presentations for your organization.  Her inspirational messages and practical information will give the participants motivation and tools to make immediate changes in their lives.  See the following list for presentations Shelley is available to do.  Shelley also is available to create a presentation that is specific to the needs of your organization.  Contact Shelley to schedule a presentation for your next event.

Organizations that Shelley has given presentations to:

  • Enzymatic Therapy, Green Bay, WI
  • Wisconsin Association for Counseling and Development Madison, WI
  • CESA 7- Headstart Green Bay, WI
  • Body and Soul Conference sponsored by the Manitowoc-Two Rivers YMCA and Holy Family Memorial Hospital
  • Mental Health Association of Sheboygan County, Inc-Sheboygan, WI.
  • Green Bay HeartCare
  • Family Service Association

List of Presentation Topics:

Turning Challenges into Opportunities

Are you facing a challenge in your life?  Are circumstances out of your control turning your life upside down?  Learn different techniques and strategies for dealing with these situations calmly and actually using them as a catalyst for your own transformation.  You will never look at a challenging situation the same way again!

Self-Care 101

In our busy lives basic self-care strategies are essential for us to maintain balance and vitality in our lives.  In this presentation you will learn:

  • How to find time in your busy schedule for self-care
  • How to deal with guilty feelings that can come up when you take care of yourself
  • How to deal with situations and people in your life who make it challenging to take care of yourself
  • Develop your own self-care plan and techniques to help support you to maintain your plan

Transforming Your Relationship with Money

Do you have negative messages around money that are holding you back in your life? Come learn ways to change your relationship with money from one of fear and anxiety to ease, trust and even fun!

Great Relationships: How to Improve all of your Relationships

Relationships are one of the main joys in life.  Come learn skills you can use in every relationship to create more closeness, trust and love.

I Love My Body!

Do you spend more time judging and trying to change your body rather than loving it?  Your body will flourish and make positive changes in an atmosphere of love and acceptance.  Come learn ways to shift the pattern from judging to loving your body. (Read “I Love My Body”)

Reach for the Stars: Setting Goals that Inspire You

Develop goals that motivate and inspire you.  Identify unconscious blocks that may be getting in the way of you reaching your goals.  Learn ways to move through these blocks easily and achieve your goals.

Living in Joy

What brings you joy?  Fills your heart? Makes your spirit sing?  Joy is a feeling that can be cultivated nurtured and expanded no matter what your starting point is.  There are specific things you can do in your day to day life that can help bring you into the state of joy more and more (Read “Living in Joy” and “Are You Having Fun Yet?”)

I am Fabulous: The Magnetic Power of High Self-Esteem

Raising your self-esteem will have a profound positive effect on every aspect of your life.  As your self-esteem expands, the good things in your life expand too.  Learn tools to see more clearly how fabulous you are and in turn create a more fabulous life! (Read “I am Fabulous: Embracing and Celebrating You!”)

What Do You Really Want?

What excites you? Fills your body with chills of delight?  Do you have a lot of passion and aliveness in your life or have things gone dull and flat for you?  Come explore what your deepest self would like to do and express in your life.  Learn ways to create an environment inside and around you that allows your passion to flourish (Read “What Do You Really Want?”)

Free Your Spirit

Feel like you have a lid on your Spirit?  Come learn ways to free your Spirit—opening up to more feelings of aliveness and vitality.  Your natural state is one of Vibrancy, Energy, Creativity and Joy—isn’t it time to truly feel free? (Read “Free Your Spirit”)

The Power of Your Own Pleasure

When you focus on bringing more Pleasure into your life you support and energize every area of your life.  In this presentation you will learn specific things you can do to bring more Pleasure into your life and release any blocks to living a Pleasure filled life (Read “The Power of Your Own Pleasure”)

Simplify, Simplify, Simplify

Are you overwhelmed with all of the things you have to do?  Do you feel like you don’t have balance in your life?  Do you feel scattered and unclear about what you need to focus on?  Then it is time to simplify your life.  Come learn the skills of simplifying your life so you can have more peace, ease and feelings of true fulfillment (Read “Simplify, Simplify, Simplify” )

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Feedback from Attendees at Presentations:

“Really enjoyed your presentation! Thanks!”

“Uplifting”

“Shelley helped us to feel open and encouraged us to begin this change”

“Wonderful and informative.  Great practical ideas.  I feel energized to continue on my journey!”

“Please come back SOON!”

“I really enjoyed the simple exercises Shelley shared with us to help shift our perspective to a positive and joyful outlook.”

“Wonderful—I will attend her whole day workshop.”

“Fabulous speaker, I hope she’s back with more next year!”

Workshops

June 22nd, 2009, by Shelley Riutta

Transformational Workshops

Radiant Life Workshops are a great way to make big shifts.  Taking a day or a few days out of your busy schedule to focus on YOU and your growth can be very powerful.  The insights and shifts that happened for you at a Workshop can help you move forward in your life.  People attend the Workshops on their own, with a friend or with family members. 

There are no Workshops currently scheduled.   Please stay posted for some Workshops that I will be scheduling soon:)

 I am Fabulous Workshop

Raising your self-esteem will have a profound positive effect on every aspect of your life.  As your self-esteem expands, the good things in your life will expand too.  Learn tools to more clearly see how fabulous you are and, in turn, how to create a more fabulous life! 

  • Let go of old beliefs that block you from EMBRACING and CELEBRATING you!
  • Learn specific techniques to eliminate self-judgment and replace it with self-talk that is LOVING and SUPPORTIVE
  • Learn to take LOVING ACTIONS everyday that increase your SELF-WORTH
  • Learn to see the BEAUTY and MAGNIFICENCE of who you really are

“An absolute joy!  I felt a great connection to everyone in the group and was able to work through a lot of unresolved issues.  I learned a lot from Shelley, the activities and the other people at the Workshop.  I feel calm, free, and open to all of life’s gifts.  I feel that my relationship with myself and others has been improved through this experience.” Feedback from person who attended the Workshop. 

Power of Your Own Pleasure

Are you having enough pleasure in your life?  When you focus on bring more Pleasure into your life you support and energize every area of your life.
Isn’t it time that you bring more delight and enjoyment into your Life?! 

  • Learn why feeling more PLEASURE will…
  • Make your life EASIER
  • Give you more ENERGY and help your body be HEALTHIER
  • Improve your RELATIONSHIPS
  • Release blocks that keep you from feeling PLEASURE each & every day
  • Learn specific techniques to bring more PLEASURE into your life
  • Develop your own PLEASURE PLAN to make POSITIVE CHANGES in your life

“I had a breakthrough with what I need to work on to find pleasure and to also release me from blocks that stem from childhood”  Feedback from Workshop participant. 

“I so enjoyed the group.  I had A LOT of fun.  I now feel the strength to follow my dreams!”  Feedback from Workshop participant 

“Awesome! An absolute blast.  I had a great time experiencing pleasure in my time at the Workshop.  I look forward to experiencing more pleasure in my life.”Feedback from Workshop participant. 

Free Your Spirit

Do you feel like you have a lid on your Spirit?  Come learn ways to Free your Spirit — opening up to more feelings of aliveness and vitality.  Your natural state is one of Vibrancy, Energy, Creativity and Joy — Isn’t it time to feel truly Free? 

  • Learn specific techniques to help you stay in a state of OPENNESS and TRUST, rather than fear and stress.
  • Have an experience of your TRUE SPIRIT—who you really are
  • Learn specific ways of LETTING GO of control of others, situations, and outcomes — to help move into more PEACE
  • Deepen your SPIRITUAL CONNECTION and learn ways to maintain this connection every day

“I did experience a freeing of my Spirit!  What a great group of people and facilitators!  Feedback from person who attended Workshop.
 

“It was a loving affirmation.  I never imagined my Spirit was this unique, loving and fun!”  Feedback from person who attended Workshop 

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What Do You Really Want?

What excites you?  Fills your body with chills of delight?  Do you have a lot of passion and aliveness in your life or have things gone dull and flat for you.  Come explore what your deepest self would like to do and express in your life.  Discover ways you may be holding your life energy and passion back from fully being expressed.  Learn ways to create an environment inside and around you that allows your passion to flourish.  Whether you’re clear about what your passion is, but don’t know how to get there or if you have no idea what your true passion is, but want to find out, this workshop is for you. 

“Fun and enlightening.  I learned new techniques to use on my own.  I learned thing about myself that I was keeping hidden and now I can move on with my life!”  Feedback from Workshop participant.  

All the Joy You Can Stand!

Needing a Joy boost?  Come have some fun and learn how to bring even more Sunshine into your life.  Learn tools to help you have more Fun and Joy in your life each and every day. In this Workshop you will 

  • Learn the top 10 Joy killers and what you can do to eliminate them from your life
  • Learn 4 things naturally Joyful people do every day that creates Joy in their life.
  • Explore your beliefs about Joy and release patterns that keep Joy out of your life
  • Use Breathwork to open up to feeling JOY more fully in the body
  • Use the process of Inner Bonding to connect with the TRUE DESIRES of your AUTHENTIC SELF
  • How to transform those around you with your JOY
  • Develop your own JOY PLAN to take with you into your life

“The Joy Workshop was so beautiful!  Your creative ideas to teach us were meaningful.  We received many helps and so much to bring home with us.  Thank you for presenting this life altering Workshop!”Colleen H. who attended the Joy Workshop with her husband. 

“My work week ended with a huge disappointment regarding a co-worker.  I did not want to come to the Workshop but stay at home and strategize for the next week.  My husband asked me to come and just stay present in the moment.  I came and I am grateful!  I will start my work week in joy and a much better place.  I feel I can describe my present dilemma in joy and be heard by my Supervisor.  You are a wonderful facilitator, Shelley!”Suzanne R. attended the Joy Workshop. 

“The Joy Workshop was great!  It was the best Workshop I have ever attended!                                             Heather A. , attended Joy Workshop 

Inner Bonding

What does it mean to really love yourself?  We always hear how important this is—so what does this mean and how do we put it into practice?  The practice of Inner Bonding helps to develop a spiritually connected loving adult self capable of taking care of the child within.  Inner Bonding teaches you how to access your personal spiritual guidance, the Guidance that is always hear for you, supporting your highest good.  Discover the inner peace, joy, and connection with yourself and others for which your heart and soul have always yearned.  Learning this process will help to heal your aloneness, heal your relationships, and transform your life! 

“I really enjoyed this Workshop.  I would have never thought I could have connected with my inner child so easily.  To see things through the eyes of me as a small child was really unbelievable!” Feedback from person who attended this Workshop 

“I have to say—this was a wonderful workshop.  I really liked talking to my child and telling her everything is OK now.  Shelley you have a magical touch with everyone.  Your voice is so soothing.  I plan on getting the Inner Bonding book and working on this more.  I now feel calm and full of peace and joy. Thank you!”Feedback from person who attended this Workshop. 

Prayer Book Workshop

Do you want to develop a stronger spiritual connection?  Creating your own prayer book is a wonderful way for you to develop your own personal dialogue with the Divine.  No matter what your spiritual path — you can create a prayer book that can be a source of support and inspiration for you on your soul’s journey.  In this Workshop you will: 

  • Learn how developing a stronger spiritual connection can help you relax and trust the unfolding of your life path
  • Learn different ways to communicate with the Divine so you can feel supported and guided in your life
  • Learn to understand the subtle feedback that you are constantly getting from the Divine and your own intuition so you can make decisions that support your highest Good
  • Create your very own Prayer book—adding your favorite prayers, ones shared from from others at the Workshop or creating your own

Transforming Your Relationship with Money

Are you ready to transform your relationship with money?  Your money blueprint is your conscious and unconscious beliefs about money.  These are blueprints that you have inherited from your family and from your own negative experiences with money.  In this Workshop you will: 

  • Learn ways to shift your money blueprint from scarcity and limitation to abundance and prosperity.
  • Learn how to blend shifting your beliefs about money to taking practical actions which will bring in more abundance.
  • Open yourself to feeling abundance in all forms so you feel the richness already present in your life.
  • Learn the connection between bringing in more money and your self-worth
  • Learn how your limiting beliefs about money represent deeper limitations you have placed on yourself about other areas of your life–and what you can do about it!

“Truly amazing and eye-opening.  I learned several ways that I have been repelling money, and ways that I can instead attract it.  Almost immediately after implementing the exercises, I began attracting more wealth and happiness into my life.  I have told all of my friends and family about this presentation and cannot wait until you have another.”  Kristin, Green Bay, WI. 

What Do You Really Want: Finding Your Life’s Purpose

Do you feel confused about your life’s direction?  Do you know you have a deeper purpose, but can’t figure out what it is?  Finding your life purpose takes time and exploration.  Come spend the day deepening your connection with yourself and find out your next step in life.  In this Workshop you will: 

  • Learn the stages of Finding Your Life’s Purpose (and what stage you are in!)
  • Learn 5 mistakes people make when trying to discover their Life Purpose
  • Learn helpful exercises that increase your understanding and awareness of your unique gifts
  • Learn the different clues and signs that something is your purpose
  • Learn techniques to work through fears you may have about pursuing your purpose
  • Learn why you will make more money following your Life Purpose

Prerequisite for Workshop: Prior to Workshop you need to complete the exercises in the “What Do You Really Want: Finding Purpose and Passion in Your Life” Workbook. This is a free Workbook that you can get here.  We will be using some of the answers to the exercises in the Workshop. There is additional homework to do prior to the Workshop–after you register I will email it to you. 

 

Presentations & Teleclasses

June 22nd, 2009, by Shelley Riutta

Transformational Presentations

“I love Shelley—her presentations always make me feel wonderful.”

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Even if you have attended a particular presentation before—it can be helpful to attend again.  I am always adding new information each time that I do the presentation—so it is always an evolving process—it could be the same topic but totally different presentation.

 

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Money Breakthrough: 7 Steps to Transform Your Relationship with Money Tele-Class

What is your relationship like with Money?

Do you have a lot of stress about not having enough?

Do you feel you never get ahead financially?

Do money issues prevent you from pursuing your dreams?

Do you feel stuck in patterns that keep happening over and over again in your financial life?

Do you long for more abundance but feel hopeless about being able to create that in your life?

For more information about this tele-class go here

The following are presentations that I give.  If there is one that catches your eye, please email me and you will be one of the first to know the next time I will be giving this presentation.

Reach for the Stars: Setting Goals that Inspire You

Develop goals that motivate and inspire you.  Identify unconscious blocks that may be getting in the way of you reaching your goals.  Learn ways to move through these blocks easily and achieve your goals.

“Received really valuable insight into fears (conscious and unconscious) that are blocking my path to happiness.  Simple but powerful tools to start releasing and transforming these fears—and how to focus on my goals.  A lot of information in a short amount of time—it was really great!” Feedback from person who attended presentation.

All the Joy You Can Stand!

What brings you joy?  Fills your heart? Makes your spirit sing?  Joy is a feeling that can be cultivated nurtured and expanded no matter what your starting point is.  There are specific things you can do in your day to day life that can help bring you into the state of joy more and more (Read “Living in Joy” and “Are You Having Fun Yet?”)

“I really enjoyed the simple exercises you showed us and did with us.  These exercises really helped me shift my perspective to a positive and joyful outlook—Thank You!” Feedback from person who attended presentation.

Transforming Your Relationship with Money

Do you have negative messages around money that are holding you back in your life? Come learn ways to change your relationship with money from one of fear and anxiety to ease, trust and even fun!

“Truly amazing and eye-opening.  I learned several ways that I have been repelling money, and ways that I can instead attract it.  Almost immediately after implementing the exercises, I began attracting more wealth and happiness into my life.  I have told all of my friends and family about this presentation and cannot wait until you have another.”  Kristin, Green Bay, WI

I am Fabulous: The Magnetic Power of High Self-Esteem

Raising your self-esteem will have a profound positive effect on every aspect of your life.  As your self-esteem expands, the good things in your life expand too.  Learn tools to see more clearly how fabulous you are and in turn create a more fabulous life! (Read “I am Fabulous: Embracing and Celebrating You!”)

“Wonderful! Really gave me some great ideas to get started with loving myself!”Feedback from person who attended presentation.

What Do You Really Want?

What excites you? Fills your body with chills of delight?  Do you have a lot of passion and aliveness in your life or have things gone dull and flat for you?  Come explore what your deepest self would like to do and express in your life.  Learn ways to create an environment inside and around you that allows your passion to flourish (Read “What Do You Really Want?”)

“The presentation helped me to feel calm and be more willing to listen to my inner self.”   Feedback from person who attended this presentation

Free Your Spirit

Feel like you have a lid on your Spirit?  Come learn ways to free your Spirit—opening up to more feelings of aliveness and vitality.  Your natural state is one of Vibrancy, Energy, Creativity and Joy—isn’t it time to truly feel free? (Read “Free Your Spirit”)

“It was wonderful, very opening!” Feedback from person who attended the presentation.

The Power of Your Own Pleasure

When you focus on bringing more Pleasure into your life you support and energize every area of your life.  In this presentation you will learn specific things you can do to bring more Pleasure into your life and release any blocks to living a Pleasure filled life (Read “The Power of Your Own Pleasure”)

“Powerful and awesome!”  Feedback from person who attended presentation.

Simplify, Simplify, Simplify

Are you overwhelmed with all of the things you have to do?  Do you feel like you don’t have balance in your life?  Do you feel scattered and unclear about what you need to focus on?  Then it is time to simplify your life.  Come learn the skills of simplifying your life so you can have more peace, ease and feelings of true fulfillment (Read “Simplify, Simplify, Simplify” ) Click here for more information about the Simplify Your Life Group

Turning Challenges into Opportunities

Are you facing a challenge in your life?  Are circumstances out of your control and turning your life upside down?  Learn different techniques and strategies for dealing with these situations calmly and actually using them as a catalyst for your own transformation.  You will never look at a challenging situation the same way again!

“Shelley gets to the heart of what I want to hear about and discuss– she gets to what is real.”             Feedback from someone who attended this presentation

“Fantastic and Inspirational!”   Feedback from someone who attended this presentation.

Great Relationships:  How to Improve all of your Relationships

Relationships are one of the main joys in life.  Come learn skills you can use in every relationship to create more closeness, trust and love.

I Love My Body!

Do you spend more time judging and trying to change your body rather than loving it?  Your body will flourish and make positive changes in an atmosphere of love and acceptance.  Come learn ways to shift the pattern from judging to loving your body. (Read “I Love My Body”)

Breath of Life: Healthy Breathing for Relaxation, Increased Energy and Inspiration

Proper breathing can help you feel more relaxed, increase your energy and even help you gain insight during problem-solving.  Learn all of the amazing benefits of proper breathing and specific techniques to improve your breathing every day.

Transforming Fear into Faith

Does fear stop you from pursuing the things that you really want in your life?  Come learn tips to shift your fear into faith and trust so you can move forward to create the life of your dreams!

Jump Start Your Dreams

Have you had a dream for years but have not taken steps to pursue it?  Do you have a sense that there is something more for your life but you can’t get clear on what it is?  Come learn ways to gain clarity about the true dreams of your heart and ways to propel yourself into taking steps to make these dreams a reality!

Soulmate Manifestation Tips

Are you ready to manifest your Soulmate? Clear the blocks you have towards meeting your Soulmate and learn ways to prepare for meeting “The One”.

Individual Sessions & Phone Coaching

June 22nd, 2009, by Shelley Riutta

Individual Sessions

“How has my life changed from working with Shelley? Life is sweeter and more joyful.  I’m less afraid, more confident, and grounded–willing to try new things.”                                                                                   Tammy, Green Bay, WI

Many of the issues that people struggle with are symptoms of being in a state of disconnection from their authentic self. When you are out of alignment with your authentic self you may have the following difficulties:

*You feel like there is something more you want to be doing with your life and your not sure what that is, and you don’t know how to figure it out. You feel empty and that life lacks deep purpose and meaning for you.  Or you have a dream but you don’t take any action to move towards this dream.  You may feel it’s too late to pursue, or it’s not practical or that you don’t have what it takes to do it

*You are struggling in one of your relationships and there is more conflict than sharing love and supporting each other. Whether it is your spouse, your significant other or your child -you are frustrated with the lack of communication, the arguing the struggle that doesn’t seem to get any better no matter what you try

*You feel that you life is out of balance with too much to do and not enough time for the things that are most important to you. You feel like you are on a treadmill, just going and going trying to get everything done.  You feel like your life is running you rather than you running your life.

*You feel that there are things that happened to you in the past that are limiting your life today. You may feel anxious around other people or have a hard time really opening up and trusting others.  You may have people you are close to in your life, but you hold yourself back from connecting with them at a deep level.  You may lack confidence to pursue the things you really want in life and feel you deserve them.

*You know what you could be doing to take care of yourself, but you don’t follow through with doing these things consistently. You may not exercise, get enough rest, eat healthy, take time off to relax.  You may struggle with addictions to overeating, alcohol, spending money, watching TV/internet etc.

*You feel unhappy, depressed or anxious and aren’t sure why and how to change this. You know you are unhappy or anxious but you can’t pinpoint why and what you need to do to feel differently.  You try different things and they may help a little bit, but then you go back to feeling bad again.

individualsessionsReconnecting with your Authentic Self to get back on Track
You have an internal guidance system that you were born with to help you navigate easily and effortlessly through your life. This guidance system is your Authentic Self.  When we are connected to our Authentic Self-we can make the best decisions that will lead us to the life we were meant to live.  The Authentic Self gives us feedback when we are out of balance and making choices that are not in alignment with our natural path of joy.  It also gives us very clear feedback when we are on track.

There are daily practices that you can do to ensure regular and ongoing contact with your Authentic Self. The more consistently you stay connected, the more you will make the best decisions for your life.  The more you make these good decisions, the more you will feel happy and in alignment with your true life path.

“You have helped me more than any other therapist.  Thank you for all of your help!                                                                                       Female, Two Rivers, WI

Not everyone has the deep desire to live from their Authentic Self and the willingness to take the necessary actions that can transform their lives.

You’re a good candidate for Radiant Life Counseling if:

  1. You are truly committed to connecting with who you really are and expressing that fully in the world.
  2. You are willing to invest a certain amount of time and energy to put into practice the tools that can truly make a difference in your life
  3. You are willing to try things outside of your current comfort zone
  4. You are willing to make your healing a top priority in your life

If this fits you, we can work together successfully.

Radiant Life Counseling includes addressing the following areas:

Assessment –First Session

  • Gain clarity and understanding of the inner dynamic that has kept you stuck
  • Gain understanding of the areas where you are blocked and what can be done to address each of these areas
  • Prioritize which areas need to be addressed first
  • Develop a comprehensive plan that includes healing your blocks, taking loving care of yourself in the present and moving yourself into full alignment with your Authentic Self and your true life path

Which of the following will be addressed first is unique to each person—an example is if you have done a lot of healing work and have done a lot of releasing the past work—you may start at Taking Loving Care of Yourself or Reach for the Stars.

Releasing the Past

  • Connect with past events that are affecting you today.  Do healing work around this event by bringing in compassion to yourself for what you experienced, clearing the false beliefs that were concluded from this experience and grounding yourself in the   safety of the present
  • Release stored grief, anger and fear in the body so you can live more fully in the present—Using one or a combination of the following methods-Breathwork, Guided Imagery, Inner Bonding, EFT  (Read “Inner Bonding and Breathwork”)
  • Make connections between how you were treated in the past and how you treat yourself today

Taking Good Care of Yourself in the Present

  • Identify loving actions for yourself and implement
  • Learn to speak the truth with love in your relationships
  • Setting loving boundaries in relationships ie “If you choose to talk to me that way I will will leave the room.”  “If you are late again the next time we go somewhere I will choose to drive on my own to the event.”
  • Setting internal boundaries around unhealthy behaviors ie overeating, alcohol, overspending
  • Decluttering and simplifying your life so you can have time for yourself and  to pursue your passions (Read “Simplify, Simplify, Simplify“)
  • Develop a supportive, loving inner dialogue (Read “I am Fabulous” and “I Love My Body”)
  • Identify situations where your inner dialogue is negative and develop a plan for a loving dialogue—practice this before the situation and implement
  • Use your emotions as feedback to you on if what you are saying to yourself is loving or unloving

Reach for the Stars: Moving into full alignment with your Authentic Self

  • Learn to see who you Authentic Self really is and get a clear sense of your worth and Loveability (Read article “I am Fabulous”)
  • Make the distinction of when you are in your false self vs. when you are being your Authentic Self
  • Use the intuitive feedback of your Authentic Self to know which decisions are best for for you
  • Gain experience being in the natural state of your Authentic Self—feeling Joy, Pleasure and having Fun (Read article “Living in Joy”, “Power of Your Own Pleasure”, and “Are You Having Fun Yet?”)
  • Practice Techniques to help you stay in a state of Faith rather than Fear (Read article “Free Your Spirit”)
  • Use the passion of your Authentic Self as a guide to your Life Purpose (Read article “What Do You Really Want?”)
  • Learn techniques to address the conscious and unconscious fears that get triggered as you move toward your goals

Intuitive Feedback
I am an intuitive.  During sessions I offer intuitive feedback to give you assistance on moving more easily through your blocks and connecting with your authentic self.

“”My experience with Shelley has been –well- life changing.  She and her methods: inner bonding, breathwork, visualization, not to mention her profound compassion and endless wisdom creates the difference between an average therapy session and true healing.  Working with Shelley allows me to heal pains of the past that stifled the pursuit of my true dreams and joys.  For me she is an angel on Earth.”

Linda, Green Bay, WI

When you schedule a session you will be mailed or emailed (based on your preference) an Intake packet. In the Intake packet is an Intake form which have questions that ask about :

  1. Significant Background Information
  2. What healing methods you have used in the past
  3. Your current satisfaction with all areas of your life
  4. Your Goals and Dreams

The first session is 75 minutes. In this session we will review what you have filled out on the Intake form and discuss your goals for doing this work.    I use a few different healing modalities in my work with clients: breathwork, inner bonding, guided imagery, EFT and powerful psychospiritual methods I have developed.  During this first session I get a sense of the best methods that will be helpful to you and which one to start with.  We will get started right away and do some healing in that first session as well.  Many clients have life changing healing experiences in their very first session.

I offer a 15 minute free consultation to answer your questions and see if working together could benefit you.

The goal is to get you on track with reaching your goals as quickly as possible. You are meant to be living from your authentic self—living a wondrous life filled with joy, fun and deep connection with those around you.  I want to have that happening for you as quickly as possible—why wait any longer!!  To schedule a session or schedule a 15 minute free consultation or to request more information click here.

Self- Esteem Exercises-14

November 12th, 2007, by Shelley Riutta

I know I have talked about this before but it is such an important inner dynamic with self-esteem—and that is self-judgement.  How you are feeling about yourself throughout the day will be determined by your inner dialogue–if it is loving and supportive or critical.  The self-judgement at times can be so subtle that you may not even be aware of it.  At the “I am Fabulous” Workshop that I did a few weeks ago–I had everyone draw a wheel and for each of area of their life color in that wedge how satisfied they were with that area of their life.  What was interesting is that some people had the realization that they had wonderful things going on in their life but their own self-judgement kept them from experiencing and letting these good things in.  Notice if this is the case for you.  Do you have some wonderful things happening in your life—but your own self-judgement is blocking your enjoyment of these things.  See if you you can let go of the judgements and let the good in!  You’ll be amazed and how your life can shift by doing this simple change.

Let go of self-judgement and let the good in!

Self-Esteem Exercise-11

November 5th, 2007, by Shelley Riutta

I woke up this morning with this song floating in my mind:

“I love myself so much, That I can love you son much, That you can love you so much, That you can start loving me.”

 This is a chant from the Agape Church in Los Angeles, CA.  The church was founded by Michael Beckwith–who you may recognize from the movie “The Secret”.   I was on a personal growth cruise in October and Michael–along with his wife Rickie Byars Beckwith–gave a service every morning.   They blew everyone away with how loving and inspirational they both were—pure emodiments of unconditional love.  I bought a CD that has this song and other wonderful songs. 

 We sang this song at the “I am Fabulous” workshop.  My assistant at the Workshop teased me and said it reminded her of a Seasme Street song!!  I said –“whatever works, I am using it!”  I love the words of the song and I have found that singing positive statements helps the message get in on a much deeper level.  At the workshop we had everyone come up with a postive affirmation that they really wanted to absorb–and we put it to a tune and recorded it for them to take home and listen to over and over.  It was so much FUN!

So think of what loving message you want to give yourself and put it to a catchy tune–and watch this message get absorbed and lift your Spirit!  Let me know what you come up with!!

Self-Esteem Exercises 6

October 30th, 2007, by Shelley Riutta

Hello!  Have you thought about getting a “Celebration of Me” journal?  This is something we focused on in the “I am Fabulous” Workshop this past Saturday.  It is a great way to focus on building self-love.  The neat thing about it is that you start to zone in on the positive things about you—because you begin looking for things to add to your journal.  And as you know what you focus on expands—which is the positive things about YOU!

Here is another Love Poem someone wrote to themselves at the Workshop.

Love Poem to Me

Your eyes–they still look upon the heaven….

Where peace and love can be found

Your lips–still perfectly forming expression to the world

Some understood, some not

Your hands–so soft and warm–touching lightly

Hands of comfort they are

Your body–sound & sturdy

Holds you strongly, firmly

Grounding to the Earth

You are amazing in all ways.

Beautiful, inquisitive, Loving one

Cyndee

Today write a Love poem to YOU!

Hi, I'm Shelley Riutta MSE, LPC a Holistic Psychotherapist in private practice. I specialize in helping people connect with their Authentic selves--and from this create a life that is in alignment with their Life Purpose and filled with Joy. I offer transformational individual counseling, presentations, groups and Workshops. You can get my Free Workbook "What Do You REALLY Want: Finding Purpose and Passion in Your Life" here or contact me at 877-346-1167.
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