Self-Esteem Exercises-1.
October 22nd, 2007, by Shelley Riutta
Hello! I am back and hopefully back on track with my daily blogging. One of the exercises to build self-esteem and self-worth is to stay in tune moment by moment with what you need to do to be loving with yourself. Most people have their antenna turned to the outer world–scanning what other people are doing–how they are reacting and responding to what they are doing. They then make decisions based on this outer information–making choices to try to please the people around them rather than tuning into what they really want to do.
When I work with clients I suggest that they shift this antenna away from the outer world and inward to tune into their own feelings and needs. Once they tune into their own feelings and needs they can then ask themselves “What is the loving action I need to do for myself right now?” Asking this question brings in information about what what be most loving in that moment. Once the client gets this information the next step is to take action on it. For example if they asked what was most loving for themselves right now and what popped into their mind was to rest—then they would take some time and rest. If for some reason they couldn’t rest in that moment they would make arrangements to rest at some point during the day.
The consequence of doing this throughout the day is that you would be attending to yourself at a very deep level, moment by moment. This kind of attentiveness to yourself creates a sense of being loved by YOU. We love ourselves by being loving to ourselves. We show our love by our attentiveness and responsivness to our own needs. We are the only one who can do this for ourselves—because we are living in our own bodies 24/7.
So for the rest of the day experiment with this–continue to keep your attention inside of you and ask “What is the loving action that I need to do for myself right now?” –then take action on what the answer is–and watch how great you will feel. You will feel very loved and valued because you will be loving YOU!
Hi, I'm Shelley Riutta MSE, LPC a Holistic Psychotherapist in private practice. I specialize in helping people connect with their Authentic selves--and from this create a life that is in alignment with their Life Purpose and filled with Joy. I offer transformational individual counseling, presentations, groups and Workshops. You can get my Free Workbook "What Do You REALLY Want: Finding Purpose and Passion in Your Life" here or contact me at 920-265-2627.
