Self-Esteem Exercises-3
October 24th, 2007, by Shelley Riutta
Happy Wednesday to you! Wednesdays are a day that I don’t see clients. It is a day that I write, catch up on paperwork, create fun stuff for clients and take walks with Niyo, my dog. Today I am working on the “I am Fabulous” Workshop that is this Saturday–I am VERY excited about the workshop. It always amazes me how things come together for Workshops–how the perfect group of people come together to support each other to grow. It is divine orchestration at it’s finest and I love every minute of it.
I am particularly excited about this Workshop because I think the issue of low self-esteem is HUGE for people. Everyone I work with needs to do a lot of work around this issue. The good news is that when you really get how wonderful you truly are—your whole life improves— because self-esteem affects everything–it affects how much good you allow into your life. The phrase “How good do you allow your life to get?” is more of a function of a belief that you really deserve a wonderful life. The good that is wanting to come into your life can only flow to the extent you allow it to flow in. The better you feel about yourself–the more good you will allow into you life.
The interesting thing with Self-Esteem is that the wounded part of us—the part of us that absorbed negative messages and conditioning as a child is very devoted to the status quo. This means that we have gotten used to the negative messages and the low self-esteem–this can feel familiar to us. Moving into the truth—which is that we are an amazing, magnificent person with tremendous worth and potential—stretches us out of our comfort zone. Without even being aware of it–we can keep ourselves locked into low self-esteem by the choices we make that are in alignment with this low-self-esteem. An example of this I see over and over is when people go to make the decision to attend a Workshop. They have the intitial excitment and they want to attend—then the old conditioning can take over and come up with a million and one reasons why they shouldn’t attend. It is the fear of the conditioned self—of moving out of what is familiar into the territory that is new—it is the unknown. This conditioned self is very compelling and many people listen to it—and they continue to stay stuck—not even knowing it was there own choice that is keeping them there.
The last “I am Fabulous ” Workshop there was a woman who said she wanted to attend—a day later she called and said she had a real busy week and would be too tired to attend. I saw that this was her conditioned self and encouraged her to attend anyway—stating that the Workshop would be energizing for her. She attended and had a huge breakthrough that completely changed her life—she has been the happiest and most peaceful she had ever been since the Workshop. She was so close to not coming. She would have missed out on the very thing she needed to grow to the next level. So if it is your time to attend the “I am Fabulous” Workshop–listen to the voice of your true self–not the voice of your conditioned self wanting to hold you back!
So watch yourself when you make decisions–make sure that you are making decisions that are what you really want—that are moving you forward—rather that decisions from your conditioned self that are going to keep you stuck in old patterns.
Make decisions that are in alignment with your true priorities. Back what you want with positive action.
Hi, I'm Shelley Riutta MSE, LPC a Holistic Psychotherapist in private practice. I specialize in helping people connect with their Authentic selves--and from this create a life that is in alignment with their Life Purpose and filled with Joy. I offer transformational individual counseling, presentations, groups and Workshops. You can get my Free Workbook "What Do You REALLY Want: Finding Purpose and Passion in Your Life" here or contact me at 920-265-2627.
