Learning to Advocate for Yourself and Others
April 22nd, 2008, by Shelley Riutta
Last week I was visiting my little sister in the hospital. She had knee surgery and was staying overnight in the hospital. My Dad and I had concerns about her the way that her IV was put in so we were asking the nurse about this. My sister said that she liked the way that I was when one of our family members were in the hospital. She was referring to two years ago when my Father had a very serious surgery at UW-Hospital in Madison, WI. There were many times while he was at the hospital where I had to move into the role of advocate for him—asking why something was being done or getting assistance when he was struggling. This helps the person who is in the hospital feel safe and that someone is watching over them and making sure they are being treated properly.
I attribute my ability to step into this role is all of the personal growth work I have done over the years. To be an effective advocate for yourself or others–you really need to let go of what other people think of you–if they think you are nice etc. You need to be concerned with the issues at hand and push for answers or assistance–and let go if others think you are pushy. Most people are too concerned about what others think that they fail to stand up for themselves and those around them. I’m not talking about being rude–but speaking up assertively. This is such a valuable thing to be able to do in your day to day life–for yourself and for the people in your life.
How well do you advocate for yourself and others? Practice letting go of what others think and focus on what you need to do to take care of yourself and those around you.
Hi, I'm Shelley Riutta MSE, LPC a Holistic Psychotherapist in private practice. I specialize in helping people connect with their Authentic selves--and from this create a life that is in alignment with their Life Purpose and filled with Joy. I offer transformational individual counseling, presentations, groups and Workshops. You can get my Free Workbook "What Do You REALLY Want: Finding Purpose and Passion in Your Life" here or contact me at 920-265-2627.
