…But I can be Happy NOW!

October 4th, 2012, by Shelley Riutta

“What we call the secret of happiness is no more a secret than our willingness to choose life. ” Leo Buscaglia
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How often do you put off your happiness until some future event occurs?  You can tell that you are doing this– if you have phrases like this going around in your head:
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“When I have more money–I will be happy.”
“When I graduate–I will be happy.”
When my spouse changes–I will be happy.”
“When I lose this weight–I will be happy.”
“When I find my Soulmate–I will be happy.”
“When I redecorate my home–I will be happy.”
“When this awful situation is over–I will be happy.”
“When my kids are happy–I will be happy.”
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Notice if you do this in your life.  For many people I work with this is such a routine pattern that they don’t even notice they are doing this.  Making some external condition a source of your happiness is a way to lose sight of your capacity for happiness in this very moment.
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I was driving the other day and got stuck in traffic.  I had a choice of moving into frustration or opening up to some happiness I could experience in the situation.  I had thrown some music CD’s into the car that a participant in a presentation I gave a few months ago had made for me.  I decided it would be a good time to listen to one of them.
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I put the music in and was immediately transported into such a pure state of happiness.  The music was amazingly beautiful, the sun was shining and Niyo (my dog) was being very sweet with me (the car was at a standstill-so he could be by me).  I could have been there for hours and would not have been bothered at all!
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It is the opportunity each of us has in every moment and that is how to open up to the potential happiness RIGHT NOW!  Our lives are made up of these precious moments that I can be wasted if we have our mind set on something needing to be different for us to be happy.
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If this is a pattern for you—(I know it has been for me!) a phrase that can help you shift this around is when you find yourself saying “I will be happy when this happens—“.  You can counter yourself with saying “But I can be happy NOW.” 
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This powerful phrase can help shift you out of the future and affirms the truth of the vast opportunity for happiness right this moment.  It also can loosen your belief that your happiness is a function of external events happening around you–and is more of a function of your choice to embrace it right now–right where you are–just as things are.

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Hi, I'm Shelley Riutta MSE, LPC a Holistic Psychotherapist in private practice. I specialize in helping people connect with their Authentic selves--and from this create a life that is in alignment with their Life Purpose and filled with Joy. I offer transformational individual counseling, presentations, groups and Workshops. You can get my Free Workbook "What Do You REALLY Want: Finding Purpose and Passion in Your Life" here or contact me at 877-346-1167.