….But I Can Be Happy Now!

October 30th, 2008, by Shelley Riutta

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Hello from Shelley!
Welcome to the 62!! (Wow) new subscribers to the newsletter!
 
The theme of this newsletter is learning to be happy now–despite any challenges you may be experiencing.   In the article below I will share a phrase that can help you make this shift immediately!
 
This past weekend I visited one of my best friends, Ines, in Chicago.  Niyo (my dog) came along because he is also best friends with her dog, Breezy. 
 
We had so much fun–we went to the Chicago dog beach on Saturday afternoon with the “kids.”  It is right on Lake Michigan–and designated for dogs to run free without leashes.  I called it a Joy Beach—it was so fun to watch all of the dogs play.  For more pictures.
 
 
Here is Ines and I at a networking event for women business owners on Friday.
 
The Fall Life Purpose Mentoring Program is going great–so many breakthroughs and people moving into alignment with their Life Purpose!  Here is feedback from one of the current participants of the program.
 
“The Life Purpose Program is a breath of fresh air.  I was so stuck in my life.  But after listening to Shelley’s insight and guidance I found myself moving again.  The techniques she suggests are thought provoking and have helped me reconnect with the person that I truly am.  It has only been 2 months and I already I am living a more passionate–purposeful life.  Thank You!
                                                     Brenda, Appleton, WI
 
If you would like more information about the next Life Purpose Mentoring Program starting in January (plus info on a special discount you can get if you register by Friday November 14th!) For more information.
 
Warmly-

Shelley



……But I Can Be Happy Now
“What we call the secret of happiness is no more a secret than our willingness to choose life. ” Leo Buscaglia
 
How often do you put off your happiness until some future event occurs?  You can tell that you are doing this– if you have phrases like this going around in your head:
 
“When I have more money–I will be happy.”
“When I graduate–I will be happy.”
“When my spouse changes–I will be happy.”
“When I lose this weight–I will be happy.”
“When I find my Soulmate–I will be happy.”
“When I redecorate my home–I will be happy.”
“When this awful situation is over–I will be happy.”
“When my kids are happy–I will be happy.”
 
Notice if you do this in your life.  For many people I work with this is such a routine pattern that they don’t even notice they are doing this.  Making some external condition a source of your happiness is a way to lose sight of your capacity for happiness in this very moment.
 
I was driving home from Chicago on Sunday and got stuck in traffic.  I had a choice of moving into frustration or opening up to some happiness I could experience in the situation.  Before I had left on my trip- I had thrown some music CD’s into the car that a participant in a presentation I gave a few months ago had made for me.  I decided it would be a good time to listen to one of them. 
 
I put the music in and was immediately transported into such a pure state of happiness.  The music was amazingly beautiful, the sun was shining and Niyo (my dog) was being very sweet with me (the car was at a standstill-so he could be by me).  I could have been there for hours and would not have been bothered at all!
 
It is the opportunity each of us has in every moment and that is how to open up to the potential happiness RIGHT NOW!  Our lives are made up of these precious moments that I can be wasted if we have our mind set on something needing to be different for us to be happy. 
 
If this is a pattern for you—(I know it has been for me!) a phrase that can help you shift this around is when you find yourself saying “I will be happy when this happens—”.  You can counter yourself with saying “But I can be happy NOW.” 
 
This powerful phrase can help shift you out of the future and affirms the truth of the vast opportunity for happiness right this moment.  It also can loosen your belief that your happiness is a function of external events happening around you–and is more of a function of your choice to embrace it right now–right where you are–just as things are.
 
 

Niyo’s Tip of the Week
Niyo is my almost 5 year old Golden Retriever!  Here is his message for this issue of the newsletter! 

“Can You Believe I Used to Be This Little!!”

 
“Here I am when I was just a few months old! My Mom says I look like little stuffed animal.  When my Mom brought me home it was in the Winter just after Christmas.  I was so curious about her house when I got there I walked around and sniffed everything.  About half way around the house I got so tired I fell asleep! 
 
 ”Later that night she put me in a big crate that was VERY scary for me–it was big and lonely–I missed all of my brothers and sisters–so I cried REALLY loud.  My Mom felt so sad for me she came in the kitchen by me and let me out of the crate.  She slept on the kitchen floor by me and I got to crawl all over her during the night–that was fun!
 
My Mom says she can’t believe it has almost been 5 years already that I have been with her!  My Birthday is on Friday–on Halloween!  She says that she is going to dress me up for my Birthday and send a picture to all of you. 
 
She also said she is also doing something special to celebrate my Birthday called a Sale–I don’t know what that means but she says it is something very nice.  For more information on this “Sale”.
Love-
Your Friend Niyo

To learn more about Niyo the very playful dog, go here:  Niyo’s Notes

 

Fr*ee Tele-Class “The Gifts of Gratitude”
Mark your calendar!   I will be doing a fr*ee teleclass on Tuesday, November 18th 2008 from 7-7:50 p.m. Central Time zone.

The topic will be “The Gifts of Gratitude: Learning to be Happy NOW.”  The number for the call is 712-432-3900  the access code to get on the call is 5594042# 
For more details

If you missed the last call, “Free Your Spirit: How to Connect with Your Spiritual Guidance for Support in Every Area of Your Life- don’t worry–I recorded it and it is available as a CD or MP3.   If you are wanting to develop your Spiritual Connection even more this is a great recording to listen to!

 
I have gotten wonderful feedback from some people that were on the call.   For Details

Reminder: I will be doing a monthly posting in my blog with follow up material to the “What Do You Really Want” Workbook, so be sure to check my blog regularly to get that material.  My Blog.

Please feel free to pass this newsletter along to others.

Wishing you Joy and Peace on your path to creating your own Radiant Life!

Shelley
www.RadiantLifeCounseling.com

920-265-2627

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Hi, I'm Shelley Riutta MSE, LPC a Holistic Psychotherapist in private practice. I specialize in helping people connect with their Authentic selves--and from this create a life that is in alignment with their Life Purpose and filled with Joy. I offer transformational individual counseling, presentations, groups and Workshops. You can get my Free Workbook "What Do You REALLY Want: Finding Purpose and Passion in Your Life" here or contact me at 920-265-2627.