Money Issues

December 27th, 2012, by Shelley Riutta

Over the years of working with clients I have noticed something about people who have chronic money issues.  These people tend to have a deep addiction to a victim pattern. Now I know that this is a tough pill to swallow if you are struggling with money right now–but it is important to address it at the root cause otherwise the pattern will just continue.   If you struggle with money issues–it is giving you feedback that you have a victim pattern that needs to be addressed.  Even if your money issues are not huge—but you are frustrated in this area of your life—it means you are stuck in a victim pattern.

One of the things to do to shift out of this pattern is to first take 100% responsibility for the status of your financial life.  Let go of blame of others or circumstances and get that you have created this situation. The good news is that once you get that you have created it–you move into empowerment and know that you can create something different as well.  Your financial life is an out-picturing of your thoughts—your thoughts about money and about yourself.  These thoughts determine your actions and these actions will lead to results.  So your money issues no matter how small or big are giving you feedback that your thoughts which lead to your actions are off track.  These thoughts and actions can be so subtle that it can be difficult to get that you are the one creating what you are experiencing.

Let me illustrate this:

Example: Cindy can never get ahead financially.  She always seems to have more bills than money coming in at the end of the month.  This has been going on for as long as she can remember.  As we worked together we discovered that Cindy didn’t really value herself and her deservability around having enough money.  She remembers her single Mom struggling when she was a child and she thought –that was just the way it is for women–they just weren’t meant to have enough money.  Unfortunately Cindy’s Mom didn’t value herself enough to take positive action to bring more money in–she stayed stuck in a painful situation her whole life.  Her Mom was stuck in a victim pattern and didn’t chose to get help to shift out of it.  Cindy was able to see that because of her experiences as a child she felt less than and that she didn’t deserve abundance–and repeated the pattern of her Mother by feeling helpless over changing this.  The first step was for her to acknowledge that she was recreating this situation for herself.

The importance of this is that if you blame outside circumstances–the economy, your job, your boss etc–you are stuck in a victim position and from this place you will never make the needed changes to bring in abundance.  Once Cindy acknowledged that she was the one creating this–she was both relieved and excited.  She knew that if she was the one creating her situation–then she could “uncreate” it and create something different.  We explored what she wanted to create instead and it was that she wanted to make $10,000 more a year and that she wanted a surplus of money at the end of the month so she could save and invest.  The next step was for her to open up to valuing herself and her gifts at a deep level.  She wrote out all of her wonderful intrinsic qualities and also all of her gifts and talents.  She worked on seeing that she deserved ease and abundance in her life–she used that as an affirmation “I deserve ease and abundance in my life”.  She also used the affirmations “I easily bring in $10,000 this year” and “I have a surplus of money at the end of the month that I save and invest.”  The next step was for her to brainstorm ways that she could bring in the extra $10,000 a year—these were her ideas—asking for a raise at work, starting a side business that she had been thinking about, selling some furniture she had in the basement, finding a different job that paid more.  As she brainstormed she felt more and more empowered. She realized that she was capable of bringing in more money–and that she had many different ways of doing that.

The final thing we did- I guided her in an imagery where she opened up to all channels of abundance for herself—that she opened up to money coming to her in magical and unexpected ways–I had her release her beliefs about how money could only come through one channel–her job–and open up to every possible way–and particularly the magical ways.  After a month of working on this issue she came to her session beaming—she had brought in $2000 extra dollars!  This came in a variety of ways–including her Aunt sending her a $500 check out of the blue!  Cindy felt excited, empowered and ecstatic that she had finally stepped out of this stuck pattern that caused her and her Mother so much pain.

Make a decision today to take 100% responsibility for what is happening in your financial life.  Now decide what you would like to create instead and take action to bring this into your life!

Anxious about the Ecomony? How to Move Out of Fear and into Trust

August 16th, 2012, by Shelley Riutta

Are you immobilized by fear about the economy?  Many people are and instead of moving forward into their dreams they are pulling back in fear.   This is the exact opposite of what is needed right now.

We are in a transformational time that is urging each one of us to live more authentically and true to our heart.  If we continue to ignore the voice of our true self and stay in places in our life out of fear—we are going to be more stuck than ever. 

What I have found is the people that have been stuck are struggling even more now—and the people that are moving forward in faith are the ones that are seeing this time as a true opportunity to align more with their Spirits.  When we are in faith and trust, we hear the voice of our true voice guiding us safely on our path.  Our attention is inward to the subtle messages of our intuition-which is how our Spirit speaks to us.

If you look to the news or to outer sources to guide you-you will be confused and fearful.  Use this as an opportunity to start to listen to your own inner guidance system.  This voice will be one of comfort, reassurance and ideas on how to proceed during this time.

If you can think of this time as a Spiritual Awakening-that we are moving into higher, lighter spiritual frequencies.  With this transition we are all called to release the denser energies of fear and control to be able to embrace this higher energy.  What I see happening is that a part of the fear that people are experiencing right now is an actual release of long held dense energy that has been held inside for a long time.

It is helping people being able to hold this higher frequency–so this is actually a good thing.  The other kind of fear that I see people in is not a release but is being created by a projection of fear into the future.  This is unnecessary fear that people are experiencing and is just causing them to suffer.

So see if you can identify where your fear is coming from.  If it is old, dense fear that is being released-breathe into it and consciously focus on releasing this dense energy-helping it to move through your body.

If it is self-created fear based on projecting fearful thoughts into the future then open up to comforting and reassuring this fearful part of you that is creating these scary scenarios.  Reassure this part of you from your loving adult that you can stay in the present moment, taking loving care of yourself and listening to your guidance on the best way to move forward.  Trust that you are being guided to navigate this time calmly and with the full assurance that all is well.

 

 

Who is responsible for your financial life–you or the economy?

June 30th, 2011, by Shelley Riutta

I am a member of a networking group and it has been interesting to watch the different members reactions to what is happening in the economy. Some of the members who are in the same industry are having different reactions—thus are having different results.  Some people are attributing the slowness in their business to what they hear in the media–that we are going into a recession and people just “aren’t buying”.  Then other people in the same industry make no mention of a slow down in the economy and are busier than ever.  One guy has been so busy he hasn’t been able to attend out meetings!  I went up to him after the last meeting and we talked about this—he said “I don’t focus on what is being said–I just kicked it into high gear and pursued these projects and things are going great–I am busier than ever!”

I have noticed too with my newer clients–many of them are mentioning the economy and their fears about how this will affect them. The clients I have been seeing for awhile—make no mention of this at all.  They keep their focus on the positive–take action in their lives to move their business and lives in a positive direction.  The phrase “What you think about expands” is a factor here.  The clients I have worked with for awhile learn that their own thoughts and actions lead to the results in their lives.  If someone is in fear and believes that external circumstances determine what is going to happen in their lives—their results will reflect this.  They will not take action and be immobilized—they will then create the very think they fear.  Going to my example above—the people that felt the economy was slowing down and “people weren’t buying”—stopped marketing their business because they felt “they won’t buy anyway”.  The person with the booming business didn’t stop pursuing business and started marketing even more–that is where he channeled his energy–his results were dramatically different.

Notice in your life how you are creating your own reality by the thoughts you hold—whether positive or negative—then these thoughts impact the kind of action you do or do not take.  Make the connection and really get that you are more in charge of what happens in your life than you may think right now.

Transforming Your Relationship with Money

June 28th, 2011, by Shelley Riutta

What is your relationship like with money? Do you have a lot of stress about not having enough?  Do you feel you never get ahead financially?  Do money issues prevent you from pursuing your dreams? Do you feel stuck in patterns that keep happening over and over again in your financial life?

What happens in your financial life is determined by your money blueprint. Your money blueprint is your conscious and unconscious beliefs about money.  These are beliefs that you have inherited from your family, the culture and beliefs you determined from your own experiences with money.  If these beliefs are positive and expansive—you will experience abundance and ease in your financial life.  If these beliefs are negative and limiting—you will experience scarcity, fear and frustration in your financial life.

Examples of limiting beliefs about money are: “I don’t deserve to have abundance” “Money is the root of all evil” “I don’t have what it takes to earn more money” “People with a lot of money are materialistic” “You have to work really hard to have a lot of money” “If I have a lot of money other people won’t like me or be jealous of me””Other people are stopping me from having more money”.

Examples of positive, expansive beliefs about money are: “I deserve abundance in my life” “Working with money is easy” “I can bring in more money and still have balance in my life” “I will be an inspiration and role model of abundance for those around me” “I have everything  I need to bring more abundance into my life right now.”

The challenge is that many of the beliefs that you have about money are unconscious—meaning you are consciously unaware of what these beliefs are.This can be frustrating because if you are unaware of these beliefs—you can’t change them– and they will continue to keep you stuck and unable to get to where you want.  Here are some exercises that you can do to flush these unconscious beliefs to the surface so you can deal with them directly.

Exercises to Uncover your beliefs about Money:

1.      Write down the word “Money” on a blank piece of paper. Write down all of your associations with the word money.  Anything that pops into your mind.  Look at the words that you wrote down –are they positive or negative—or a mix of both?  Can you see from this exercise some of your negative associations with money.  Now write down the words that you want to associate with money—examples could be : fun, ease, joy, giving, freedom. Write and affirmation with this word “Money is fun” “Working with money is easy” “Money is good and I deserve to have it”.

2.   What beliefs to you have about people who have a lot of Money?- Write these beliefs down. These beliefs give you a lot of information about your own beliefs about money.  Example—“People with a lot of money did something dishonest to get it”  This indicates that you believe that in order to get more money you will have to be dishonest—and of course you don’t want to do that —so you block yourself from having more money.  Or you might cap off how much money is acceptable for you to have before you fall into what you perceive as the category of “People with a lot of money.”  Or your belief could be that “People with a lot of money use people and take advantage of them to get money.”  Or “People with a lot of money are stuck up or superficial”.

Any negative association or judgment about people with a lot of money ends up sabotaging your capacity to bring in abundance—because you believe you will be perceived this way if you have a lot of money. There is a whole range of people who have a lot of money—some are kind and generous—and some may be unkind and greedy. The reality is that you get to decide what kind of person you will be with your abundance.  Shift your belief by focusing on the people who do wonderful things with their abundance. The more you embrace positive associations with people with money—the easier you can move into bringing in more abundance yourself.  And then know that you can have a positive impact on the world by the way that you channel your wealth and abundance.

3.   Write out your financial biography- Each of us has a financial biography—a history of how money has been viewed and handled in our family’s history and in our own lives.  It is important to think about this because it will give you clues to your unconscious beliefs.  An example of part of my financial biography is that my Mother’s father (my grandfather) grew up very poor—his parents were emigrants from Croatia and his father died when he was 9 years old.  When he died it was also during the Great Depression so it was a very difficult time for his Mother and 3 siblings.  All of the kids started to work to bring in money—by grandfather was good at this and developed this skill and became a young entrepreneur.  He later went on to build a hotel and bought a bar.  He was very frugal with his money and I recall him noting each time we ate how much he paid for each item.

What are the beliefs about money that I inherited from this story? Some of them are positive beliefs and some are limiting.  The positive beliefs are “No matter what the financial challenge, there is always a creative way to bring money in” one of the limiting beliefs is “I have to work non-stop to bring money in, I can’t take time to enjoy the fruits of my labor”.  This limiting belief comes from a time period when there was a lot of challenges in my grandfathers life around money—and he did have to work quite a bit.  But now is a different situation and I can embrace a more positive belief which is “I work and also allow money to flow to me—when I take time to relax I open myself to even more abundance.” The fears about money from an earlier time can echo down through the generations and fuel an unconscious fear in you today.  Notice which of your limiting beliefs come from a painful time in your family history—and that you still may operate from it—even though that event is over and not happening in your life.  The more you can operate from beliefs of faith and trust rather than fear and scarcity—the easier it will be for you.

The important thing to remember is that whatever we believe acts as true. Look at the financial beliefs that you have inherited from your family and carefully choose the beliefs that you want to operate your life from.  Question—is this belief coming from fear or trust?  If is coming from fear—it is going to limit your capacity for abundance.  If it is coming from trust—it will expand your capacity to bring in abundance.

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4.Write down your families beliefs about money– After doing the financial biography you can begin to write out the financial beliefs operating in your family.  Write down how much you adhere to this belief in your own life.  Or you may have rebelled against a belief and went to the exact opposite.   An example of this is if your family was very frugal and did it in a way that was very fear based and restrictive—you may rebel by overspending.  Their belief may have been “The priority is to save money and not have fun—saving for the future is the priority” and you may go the opposite and say “Money is to spend now—I don’t have to worry about the future.” Both beliefs are limiting.  The reality is that there can be a balance of saving for the future and having fun in the present.  The underlying limiting belief in both of these statements is that you can’t do both at the same time—have money AND fun.  Look at the beliefs you have inherited and decide which ones you want to keep and which ones you want to replace.  Write out an affirmation to replace the limiting belief.  For the beliefs listed above it could be “I am able to balance saving money and having fun in my life-they both are important.”

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5.Notice the problems you have in your life around money—What are the reoccurring themes and patterns you have about money?  Is it that you are able to save a certain amount of money, but then some emergency happens that depletes your money and your back to square one?  Is it that you run out of money and then have to borrow from others?  Do you have people who always borrow from you?  Are you stuck in earning the same amount of money you have earned for years?

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Your outer world reflects your inner beliefs—so you can look to your outer world to see your beliefs. What beliefs would someone have to create this experience?  If the theme is just when you get ahead financially some external circumstance brings you down—you have a self-sabotage pattern going on.  What are the beliefs supporting this?  Is it “I don’t deserve to have abundance” or “I am only allowed to succeed this much—I can’t go beyond this” “It is not OK to be make more money than my parents did” “I feel guilty if my life goes well when other family members are struggling so much.”  It is important to get to the core of the beliefs that are fueling reoccurring patterns in your life.  These beliefs are causing needless suffering in your life.  This exercise is great to do with a friend or a therapist—they can give you feedback on a pattern that you may be so close to that you aren’t able to see how your own beliefs are creating it.

As you uncover and shift your beliefs about money your outer experiences will begin to change.Here are some other things you can do to bring in more abundance.

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Tips to bring in Abundance

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1.      Give Yourself a Raise- Determine how much money you would like to make this year above and beyond what you already make.  Pick a number that feels like a stretch, yet somewhat realistic.  Now brainstorm ways that you could bring in this extra money and list these out. This is on the practical level.  Now shift gears and open up to the universal flow of abundance—consciously open up to receiving money in ways that you never dreamed possible.  Money can come to you in so many different ways—just open up to receiving it.  One of the more magical ways I have heard of money coming to someone is when she was driving in the country money started blowing all around her car.  So she stopped to gather it up—it was like to appeared out of nowhere!  To open up to this you can use the affirmation “Money comes to me in magical and unexpected ways.”  Combine doing things on the practical level to bring money in and also stay to open money flowing to you in these unexpected ways as well.  This is an important technique to use in our current climate of fear around money.  Instead of moving into fear and becoming immobilized—move into faith and action.  What can I do to bring money in now matter what is happening externally?  Focus on bringing it in both practically and magically.

2.Declutter your home- If you think of money as energy it will flow more easily to you if you are open and unblocked.  We can “block” ourselves in a variety of ways—one is with our own negative thinking which I addressed earlier in this article.  Another way we can block ourselves is by hanging on to clutter.  Clutter can literally block the energy in our home and in us—stopping the flow of abundance that wants to come to us.  Hanging on to clutter is based on fears about scarcity—“if I let go of this I am afraid I may need it someday.”  This is an inherent lack of trust in the abundant flow of the Universe bringing to you what you need when you need it.  It again is operating from fear rather than trust.  I had a client who decluttered her basement and a week later she received a check out of the blue for $10,000!  Delutter and open up to the flow of abundance that wants to come to you.

3.Treat what you do have with Care- How do you handle your current finances?  Are you mindful and wise with how you spend your money now? Keep monthly totals of what you bring in and what you spend.  Know what your net worth is every month.  Is your spending in alignment with your highest priorities?  Do you have debt that you need to address?  Develop a repayment plan for your debt and put it into your budget—and then take action to bring in more abundance.  Focus more on ways to bring money in than spending time in worry and fear over the debt. Do you overspend?  Look at what this is about for you.  Do you overspend to fill up an inner emptiness, does it give you a “high”, or do you feel a sense of power.  Address these deeper issues with a therapist so you can release this pattern. Do you have a financial plan for your future? If not make an appointment with a financial planner.  Ask your friends if they have a recommendation of who to work with.  Make sure you are handling what you do have with care.  List ways you could handle your current money better.  You will not be able to bring in more abundance if you are mismanaging the money that you currently have.

4.Improve Your Self-Worth- The better you feel about yourself, the more money you will bring in.  This works on three levels—one if you are confident about who you are—you are a magnet for people and opportunities.  Good things will be drawn to you.  People will want to work with you and be around you.  Second—if you feel good about yourself you will be more likely to see the value of the work you do and expect to be paid accordingly.  You will be able to more confidently go to your boss and ask for a raise because you really believe in the value of what you do.  Or if you have your own business and value what you do—others will value it too and will want to do business with you.  List out the value of the work that you do—all that you bring to your job or business.  If you get stuck with this—brainstorm with a co-worker or trusted friend.

The third and more important way that self-worth affects the money that we bring in is that low self-worth makes you feel that you don’t deserve abundance—that you’re not worthy of having it.  If you don’t feel worthy of abundance you will unconsciously block it from coming in to begin with—or it will come in but something will happen for you to lose it.  If this is the pattern for you look at this deeper belief of not feeling deserving and shift it to “I do deserve abundance, I am worthy of tremendous abundance.”  For tips to increase your self-worth read my article, http://www.radiantlifecounseling.com/articles/i-am-fabulous.htm

5.Examine What You Think More Money will Give You- If you had all of the money you wanted to have—what do you think that would bring you—peace, freedom, time,joy, happiness, love—you could spend time doing things you love to do?Look at making changes in your life to bring those things into your life NOW.What could you do to feel more Joy in your life now?Sometimes people can chase after the idea of more money as a panacea for the things that they could actually have in their lives this very moment.The more you open up to creating what you want now—you will lift your vibration and you will naturally draw more financial abundance to you as well.

6.Do What You Love and the Money Will Follow- This is one of my favorite phrases—it is from a book that was published years ago.As you align yourself with your life’s purpose—follow what you love—the money will come to you.Set your intention that you can do what you love and make money.Here is a good quote “Often people attempt to live their lives backward; they try to have more things, or more money in order to do more of what they want, so they will be happier.You must first be who you really are, then do what you need to do, in order to have what you want.”Margaret Young.

7.       Feel the abundance you currently have in your life—your home, your health, the people you love and feel the deep appreciation for all of your blessings.  This deep appreciation will fill your heart and will give you the deep satisfaction that you are yearning for.  While it is wonderful to reach for more abundance and to bring more money in –it is important to always rest in the appreciation of what you have now.  This appreciation is one of the biggest magnets for money and will insure your path to even greater abundance will be a joyful one.

Wishing you fun and joy as you transform your relationship with money and open up to the incredible abundance you deserve!

Prosperity Consciousness vs. Poverty Consciousness

April 4th, 2011, by Shelley Riutta

Where is your mind going lately related to prosperity? Are you buying into the fears about the “economy” or are you keeping your mind focused on what you want to create in your own life?  I have made a conscious decision to not participate in what is being called a “recession” just as I choose to not participate in many
other things that do not serve me in creating the kind of life I am
creating.

We all get to choose where we are going to focus our time, energy, and attention in our day to day life. Where we focus this attention will affect how we feel from moment to moment and also
will affect what kind of direction our life will move in.  Do you
want to move towards prosperity or poverty?  It is as plain as that. Ultimately, prosperity is more in alignment with your true nature–your Spirit.

I hear many people around me attributing the negativity in the
world and their life to the “economy.”
My neighbor tells me she is not selling her house because, of course, “the economy.”  When I share with her some of the exciting things I am doing this next year she says to me, “You are going to do that in this economy?!” Yes, and I know everything will be fine.  In “my world” my business is busier than it has ever been and is getting busier everyday.

We are living in two different worlds–her world is one of fear and poverty and mine is of faith and prosperity. This difference did not come up recently–we have been on two different tracks of cultivating these different mindsets for a very long time–and we are bearing different fruit from this now.  What world have you
cultivated and now live in?

Over the years of working with clients I really get that people
live in different worlds that are, for the most part, self-created.
One person lives in a world where people are loving and
kind–another person lives in a world where people cannot be
trusted and are out to take from them.

The important thing here is that these beliefs can attract the very thing that will reinforce their held beliefs. Whatever you believe will act as true.  If you don’t know what your beliefs are look at
what you are experiencing: what kind of beliefs would you have to
have to get this experience?

I work with clients who have a template of loving relationships and this keeps happening for them over and over again. The good news is you can change your belief template.

Here are the differences in these two mindsets:

Poverty Consciousness

Prosperity Consciousness
1. Belief in Scarcity 1. Belief in Abundance
2. There is not enough for everybody 2. There is enough for everybody
3. Focus on bills/debt 3. Focus on how to bring more money in
4. Views money coming to them through 1 to 2 channels 4. Open to receive money through all channels
5. Focus on lack and what they do not have 5. Has extreme gratitude for all that they have
6. Watches the news to determine what is going to happen to them 6. Limits exposure to mass media and decide what they will create in their own life personally
7. Believe if they have abundance they will hurt the planet 7. Believe they can use their abundance to help the planet e.g. buying organic products, buying a hybrid car
8. Feel they don’t deserve abundance 8. Feel they deserve abundance
9. Don’t invest in personal growth 9. Invest in personal growth
10. Because of fears of scarcity, aren’t generous with others 10. Generous in giving to others
11. Aren’t aware of their limiting beliefs around money 11. Consistently work on releasing limiting beliefs around money
12. Are not aware of how to manage their money effectively- and don’t have a plan for their money 12. Learn about effective ways to handle their money and have a plan for their money
13. Believe that people with money are greedy and selfish and must have done something dishonest to get the money 13. Realize some people with money are generous and some are greedy- they decided that they can live an abundant life that is in alignment with their values
14.  Fell guilty if they have abundance and others are struggling 14. Realize that they can be a role model for others on how to create abundance.  They also know that the more abundance they have the more they can help others
15. Are not willing to learn from others who have created abundance. Stay stuck in their own patterns and don’t seek help 15. Are willing to learn from others how to create abundance. Are willing to get help if they are stuck.

Where is your mindset today? See if you can shift right now into
prosperity consciousness–being grateful for what you do have and
opening up to even more abundance.  It will be more in alignment
with your true nature—which is truly abundant with love,
compassion, creativity and all of your special gifts.

Wishing you incredible prosperity!

Hi, I'm Shelley Riutta MSE, LPC a Holistic Psychotherapist in private practice. I specialize in helping people connect with their Authentic selves--and from this create a life that is in alignment with their Life Purpose and filled with Joy. I offer transformational individual counseling, presentations, groups and Workshops. You can get my Free Workbook "What Do You REALLY Want: Finding Purpose and Passion in Your Life" here or contact me at 877-346-1167.