We are All Helping Each Other to Heal
December 27th, 2011, by Shelley Riutta
Think of a challenging person in your life right now? Someone who is pushing your buttons in some way. Believe it or not but that person is trying to help you! All challenging situations and people are helping you to grow and change in important ways.
Are you treating the experience as a learning experience or as just an experience of frustration that you would like to just go away? Ask yourself what important things am I learning here? What is causing my suffering—how I am thinking about this person and this situation–what am I telling myself. What could I tell myself about this situation that could change the experience and have it make sense to me?
An example: Let’s say that you have a person in your life who is controlling and pushy–what would that help you with? It could help you practice setting boundaries and also learn to respond to their controlling behavior in a non-reactive way. It could also help you practice keeping your emotional state where you want it to be without allowing what is happening with that other person affect you.
Today–ask what am I learning from this challenging person or situation–how is it helping me?
What can you suggest when too much people is challenging you? I´ve just got divorce and my ex, his family, my little children, even my own family is challenging me constantly in lot of different forms. Yes, if a look at one at a time, I can understand how they make me grow. ¡BUT, i´m exhausted! And that confuses me a lot and makes it really hard. I have little time alone to “order” my head, I work, have 3 daughters aged 6, 4, 1.
Thank you!
Andrea, from Argentina